A non religious dating a mormon
": All of us can communicate loud and clear without using words. I'd like to do this again very soon.'" You may laugh at first, but think about that for a minute. We communicate loud and clear with our actions, and if we're not careful, we could be telling lies! Ashton: You mean, you can be dishonest by kissing someone? If putting your arm around someone means "I like you," and holding hands means "I really like you," than maybe kisses mean "I love you." What do you think?In fact, as the old saying goes, "Actions speak louder than words." With that idea in mind, let's ask some questions. Some will say, "I don't know about that; I don't think kisses mean I love you." Perfect. Maybe kisses mean something different to you than they do to me, or to him, or her.
I fully expected to marry in the temple, which I in fact did, and I was thoroughly Mormon in every respect, so marrying outside the faith would have created various compatibility problems. But if you're talking about kissing people you date, be cautious in how you use this form of affection.Don't throw kisses around - treat them as something valuable to be used with discretion. Under a second or two could be a useful rule, I suppose.It might be hard to find such a gem in the real world.A concrete example of an issue that might be hard to negotiate: Say I found a Mormon woman I wanted to marry. There is no way in hell I would get married without them being present, which would of necessity mean a non-temple wedding.(To name but one example of many, I think nothing of seeing R rated movies, something which would be shocking to many LDS women.) The mantra of the older Mormon woman looking for someone to date is that she wants someone who “honors his priesthood.” I hold the priesthood and honor it (I think) in my way, but that mantra I suspect is code for a certain Peter Priesthood type, a mold into which I”m not even close to fitting.
Mormonism is just culturally weird in so many ways that it would be a relief to be with someone who either was one or was familiar with the religious culture of the faith, so that I wouldn’t feel the constant need to explain or defend the many things that would come up requiring such explanation or defense.
If you put your arm around someone on a date, what are you saying (without using words)? And that's exactly why we have to be careful - because we could be telling lies with our actions.
This is a major reason why people get hurt, and why there's heartache.
The guy is a high school science teacher, which was a major plus in my book.
(As a boy I was a science geek and always close to the science teachers, who were uniformly terrific.) Also, he’s got a thing for cult films, and I had to laugh out loud, because that is one of my daughter’s passions as well, so in that respect at least they seem well matched.
That would be a definite plus to dating within the faith.