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Dating a cancer

Sideways Seduction For first dates, my tip is to choose an eatery or venue where there's a secondary center of attraction that's not the Crab.

Personality flaw or not, you may not be able to change their opinion about your cancer, which is okay.You need people around you that are going to support you and lift you up, not bring you down.If you're feeling terribly frightened about sharing your diagnosis, because you are concerned you might receive this type of reaction, you may want to reframe by looking at your situation from another angle.If you've truly shared your diagnosis with the right person, he or she will eventually see that not only can people date and love again after cancer, but the person who has had cancer may be a gem.Studies are telling us that cancer changes people in good ways, not just bad.It's a huge deal for Cancer to go on a date, and to defuse the intensity, he or she might play it blasé.

The indifferent facade is a ruse to hide the extreme sensitivity -- and sometimes mortal fear of rejection -- that lies behind it.

It's full of unnerving decisions, from figuring out how long to wait before calling, to choosing the right time to meet the parents. Who you choose to tell about your cancer is a personal decision.

But when you throw a cancer diagnosis and treatment into the dating dynamics, it can be even more stressful. Some people are selective in who they confide in, while others are much more open with their cancer journey.

Keep in mind that as you cope with your feelings, it was likely extremely hard for your new significant other to share his or her diagnosis.

Check out a few tips on what to say (and what not to say) to someone with cancer as you move forward in which ever direction is best for both of you.

However, don't choose the place with hordes of foot traffic, or your Cancer will get that in-the-fishbowl feeling.