Dating an orthodox seminarian
But never forget that "yes he did use you." Emotionally, sexually, to meet his unmet needs—and in doing so, the priest along with his "bride" Catholicism, has also damaged the woman spirituality to some extent.
After a woman lays the situation out for what it is, and gives a necessary ultimatum of either growth in the relationship or an end to it, the priest's first reaction is going to be fear.The title simply indicates that loving someone who is married to an ideology will ultimately bring nothing but pain.It is a "death drive" in a literal and personal sense for myself, but universally it means the cycle of euphoria, guilt, chastisement, withdrawal from the situation, addiction to it, and back to euphoria.But what he is sorry for is his harsh reaction, not any of his other actions. I blamed the church the least, only because the celibacy doctrine has been around for hundreds of years before I was even born—we knew the Church’s rules and broke them anyway, but hypocritically within its confines.He’s still steeped in the Church’s man-made rule of celibacy and holds himself on the pedestal of Jesus and St. Although receiving an apology may help the woman move toward forgiveness, it’s somewhat irrelevant in the large scheme of things. Because you can forgive a person whether or not he has apologized, and, if he has apologized, it’s questionable whether that was genuine.In truth, it is the other way around: only by starting the healing process can true forgiveness ever occur.
The woman has just suffered intense emotional and spiritual damage—to add the pressure of forgiveness on top of that might be too much to bear, resulting in even more unnecessary guilt.
Since the relationship and aftermath were largely based on inauthenticity, what’s to say that his apology is genuine, and what’s more, that your forgiveness is genuine?
We’re always taught by society that we must forgive, we must let go of the grievance, or we can’t begin to heal.
It is not an anti-Catholic website or a “war on Catholicism,” though perhaps some conservative Catholics may view it differently.
It’s intended to be a place of compassion, hope, and respect for all points of view that are expressed with kindness.
Again, the woman must accept that this is the case, and go through the grieving process. I mean, facing the truth, and eventually understanding why this is his initial reaction.