Dating man not answering emotional questions
Well, many evangelicals who otherwise believe in the inerrancy of the Bible and who might generally agree with the sufficiency of Scripture have nonetheless embraced the world's ideas about dating.In doing so, some make the argument that Scripture doesn't speak to this topic. The Bible speaks to every area of our faith and life at some level.
If you're a Christian, that's the biblical life you're called to. Just this once, I'm going to set out a basic framework for biblical dating so we all know what we're talking about — or at least so you know where I'm coming from.The sufficiency of Scripture is taught explicitly and implicitly in many passages, but perhaps the most obvious is 2 Tim.-17: So, how does the sufficiency of Scripture apply to our coming discussions?by Scott Croft If you're reading this, you're interested in dating. In our society, dating has become something of an obsession. It's just something you do if you're single and of age (and that age is quickly dropping) in America. In fact, depending on which statistics one believes, the divorce rate for professing Christians may actually be higher than for Americans as a whole.You've done it, you're doing it, you'd like to do it, or you need to teach somebody else how to do it. It is considered the natural precursor to marriage, and is generally considered something to be desired, whatever form it might take. If you were to Google the word "matchmaker," you would receive something in the neighborhood of 12,100,000 responses — with a few of these outfits claiming to be Christian, but most making no such claim. As evangelical Christians, we're called to be distinct in the ways we think and act about all issues that confront us and those around us. Granted, not all of these people are evangelicals, but we're not doing so well either.I mention the sufficiency of Scripture as part of the groundwork for this column because it's one of those doctrines that touches every area of our lives, and it is at the heart of the approach to dating (and life) that we'll talk about here. We may define biblical dating as a method of introduction and carrying out of a pre-marital relationship between a single man and a single woman: The Scriptural support for the idea of biblical dating is largely by example and implication.
No matter how practical or specific your questions or my answers get in the coming months, I will strive to have biblical support at some level for everything I say. We will look at a number of passages over the course of our discussions that support various aspects of biblical dating, but for the moment, let me just give you some references to study: Again, we'll talk more about these and other passages as we deal with specific questions. The very idea of extended romantic or sexual involvement outside of marriage doesn't even appear in Scripture unless it is described as illicit (sinful).
Modern dating tends to assume that there will be a high level of emotional involvement in a dating relationship, and some level of physical involvement as well.
Biblical dating assumes NO physical intimacy, and more limited emotional intimacy outside of marriage.
The doctrine of the sufficiency of Scripture assumes inerrancy but then goes a step further.
This doctrine simply holds that the Bible is sufficient to guide and instruct us authoritatively in all areas of our faith and life, and that there is no area of life about which the Bible has no guidance for us.
Biblical dating has as its goal to be emotionally and physically intimate with only one member of the opposite sex ... Modern dating tends to be egalitarian (no differences between men and women in spiritual or emotional "wiring" or God-given roles).