Dating with kids
“We didn’t (say), ‘Hi, this is my boyfriend and his kids,'” Solomon says.“We went to the park and, oh, we happened to run into Jeff, Jake and Jordan.
“It’s not good to introduce your children to a lot of different people,” says Steven Spector, Ph.With a 50-percent divorce rate, America is seeing more mixed families than ever before.It’s a different game to date when you’re a parent and while there are no hard and fast rules, parents and experts agree on some guidelines – the least of which is, let them be ready before you are.Dan respected his sensitivity, approaching him with conversation or a board game as a way to grow close.“Take each child’s temperament into consideration and developmental age,” says Spector.“I decided early on not to confront Annie’s children with any issues I might have with them,” says Slotkin, a Bloomfield Hills resident.
“To speak to Annie about it and if she chose, then she dealt with the children. Let your ex know you’re dating; don’t let him or her find out from the kid or a friend.
“Tell them they are your first priority and you’ll always be there for them, no matter who you’re dating.” If kids are resistant or negative, don’t get defensive. “I’ve done a pretty careful job of limiting (my son’s) exposure to anybody that I wasn’t 100 percent sure could be marriage (material),” says Sean Singer, a divorced dad in Plymouth.
Seven years since his divorce, Singer has only introduced his now 14-year-old son to two women, neither of whom he ended up marrying.
“No matter their ages, explain (to your children) why you’re dating and that no one will ever replace the other parent,” says Dr.
Terry Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research and a family therapist.
Cheese, parks, putt-putt or movies – places devoid of pressure.