Red flags for dating women
Every relationship that I’ve ever been in where I was head over heels over my partner I couldn’t stop talking about my partner.They were the greatest thing to happen to me in recent memory and I wanted to show them off to everyone.
One of the fastest and most efficient ways to grow resentful of your partner is to keep score in your relationship.Either deal with things as they come up for both of you, or watch out.The longer you stay with them the more ammunition they will have collected to use against you in future blow-ups. If they raise a hand to you or throw things at you, this needs to be discussed immediately.If your core values and interests around things like self-development, money, and whether or not to have children are completely out of sync with your partner’s, then that is something that you need to be giving focused attention early on in a relationship.Does your partner bring up past events that happened months ago as ammunition during your arguments? This one ties into the score keeping mindset of #3 and is a toxic relationship habit.If they ever use sex (either as a reward, or withholding it as a punishment) as a tool to get what they want then you can be sure this is a massive red flag.
This behaviour is manipulation pure and simple.“If you make dinner we can have sex tonight…” RED FLAG!
If your partner is unable to apologize for any wrongdoings then you might need to re-evaluate your relationship.
While differences in your partner might attract you in the short-term, it’s your similarities that will keep your relationship thriving after several years.
When both of you are coming from the place of “I do things for you because I love you and I want you to feel appreciated” then your relationship will flourish.
Sexual intimacy is a mutually beneficial act that makes both parties feel loved.
If they don’t largely accept you for who you are, then they weren’t meant for you. Whether it’s their sexual technique or the way that they scramble your eggs in the morning, it’s a red flag if your partner digs their heels in when you try to give them feedback.